Valentine's Day Special: How to Flirt14-02-2015
Flirtology founder Jean Smith shares her advice on body language, avoiding clichés and seduction.
Flirting is a tricky art to master, but fear not because it is a skill that can be taught. I caught up with flirting expert and founder of Flirtology, Jean Smith, to get a few pointers on how to meet new people.
Jean has a degree in Cultural Anthropology, a Masters in Social Anthropology and through extensive cross-culture research has devised six universal signs of attraction (more on those later). But best of all, she is a brilliant flirt.
Here are the need-to-know questions we put to Jean, answered...
1. What's the secret to approaching a guy?
Attitude and expectation are key. Remember, everyone loves to chat so see it as a friendly conversation. Do not put too much pressure on yourself over a total stranger.
Approach someone, chat to them, and if you like them go from there.
There are three things to think about:
1. Look for signals of approachability (does this person look open to conversation?);
2. A situational question (something open-ended without too much expectation e.g., "Woah, that drink looks good -- what is it?");
3. Let the person know you like them in particular ("Do you mind if I join you?")
2. If you are a confident person except for when it comes to flirting - how do you change that?
Do not compartmentalise your life, and, equally, do not make it all about you. Focus on other people and just be in the moment. Try to avoid thinking ahead, or worrying about something out of your control -- just connect with someone there and then.
Often, people are looking for something lacking in themselves, but what is important is knowing that you do not need that person to fulfil you.
3. How do you know when someone is flirting back with you?
Follow the six signs of attraction:
2. Open body language
6. Eye contact
If there is any of the above going on it is a good sign, but if you get a feeling or a vibe about someone, and you think there is a good connection -- there is.
4. How do you avoid cringe-worthy moments?
Do not overthink things. Act like yourself, and they will like you for you.
5. What are your thoughts on dating apps?
For flirting they can be okay, but they are so superficial and so based on appearances that finding anything long-term is unlikely.
Plus, they take away all the fun/buzz of flirting with someone in person.
6. You are in a second/third date scenario: how do you avoid friend zone?
Play on sexuality and use those six signs -- you have got to want to take each other's clothes off.
Also, channel your inner Parisian woman and create intrigue. Make people want to learn more about you, but do not give too much detail away.
7. What problems do most women face when they come to you?
Control. So many women are used to having control of most areas of their life that it is hard to adjust to not knowing. I would say go with it, relax, and have fun.
If you are flirting/approaching people to find a long-term partner, there are not many people who will fall into this category so bear that in mind.
8. Body language: what should we be looking for?
Big smiles, arms uncrossed, eye contact, and being there in the moment.
Adapted from MyDaily
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